Our culture is backwards to the ways of God in soooo many ways.
This is especially true about how to build healthy relationships.
When a culture departs from God’s truth, all that is left is the shifting sands of “truth” that changes on the fly. God’s Word teaches us that GOD should be at the center of all relationships. A culture without God teaches—humans should be at the center of all relationships.
But humans were not created to be at the center of anything.
We can’t handle the pressure; we can’t satisfy ourselves; and we can’t satisfy anyone else. So why would we ever think that we will ever have a relationship where we are the center and focus of someone else’s life? My friend, there is not one human on the planet equipped to handle the pressure or responsibility of EITHER—BEING the “center” of someone else’s life or—MAKING someone else the center of our life. You will never be enough and you will become a slave to the relationship. After you are worn out and used up—they will desert you. When they leave, they often take part of your soul with them and—it takes a long time to get it back. They will be on to the next person they think they can get satisfaction from by idolization.
I’ve been on both sides of this equation. Have you???
My friend, we all need to know we are absolutely and unconditionally loved. But only God is capable of loving us in this extraordinary way. The Bible says that GOD is LOVE. (1 John 4:8) Conversely, the Bible NEVER says that MAN or WOMAN is love.
Our deepest experience of God’s love begins when we are born again and become part of His family. God downloads HIS Spirit into OUR spirit. Then we are enabled to possess love in excess of our voracious need. In fact, we have plenty to give away. We no longer need to be the center of someone else’s life because God is the center of ours and HE gives us all the greatest love.
God’s love is unconditional, deep, wide, overflowing and wondrous.
But because the enemy is constantly trying to keep us from experiencing the fullness of God’s love, we need to pray like Paul the Apostle did—to know His love and be constantly experiencing it! He prayed:
“I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to COMPREHEND with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:14-19
The better we know and experience God’s love, the healthier our other relationships become.
We can approach each relationship with God’s love which is selfless. God’s love fills us with so much that we must give it away, and His presence fulfills our greatest expectations. God’s presence makes us healthy. A healthy person does not need to make demands on others. God satisfies our expectations; and thus, we may approach other relationships with an expectancy instead of a voracious expectation.
When we are in the center of God’s loving presence, He will never use us, abuse us, enslave us, or leave us and—we are free to love others without crushing them with our own expectations.
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God is love. Always has been and always will be .
Amen